Category: Happiness

Thinking About Getting A Dog?

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Thinking About Getting A Dog?

A lot of people get pets for Christmas. That may or may not be a good idea.

Thinking About Getting a Dog?

D. S. Mitchell

Dogs save lives in more ways than one. But sometimes we, or the family, are not in the right place, time-wise, geographically, or emotionally to bring a new friend laden with responsibilities into our lives. With the holidays fast approaching, many of us think, “wouldn’t a puppy make a perfect Christmas gift for Johnny, or Jenny Jr?”

Maybe, maybe not.

The time commitment required for a new puppy is often ignored. Before you start looking for that new pup, make sure that you have the time and the energy required to daily commit to your new best buddy. Puppies will need to go out every hour until they are house trained. You or your children will need to be ready to commit no less than two hours daily for play, exercise, socialization and stimulation. Additionally, puppies because they are rapidly growing, need to be fed and watered three times a day.

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Thanksgiving, A Time Of Gratitude

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Thanksgiving, A Time Of Gratitude

Thanksgiving is a day of thanks and gratitude for all the blessings.

Thanksgiving, A Time Of Gratitude

By D. S. Mitchell

 

As we race through our daily lives it is easy to become angry and aggrieved; frequently blinding us to everyday ‘miracles’; the beauty of a child’s laugh, the comforting chirp of a robin’s song, or the magnificence of a sunrise.

Sometimes, being grateful is difficult, I often fail in the endeavor, but as a reminder to my friends, if you can’t feel that sense of fulfillment that gratitude provides, you will never find ‘happiness’ no matter how far and wide you search.

 

35 of the Worst Gifts to Give

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35 of the Worst Gifts to Give Gift giving can be hard, Anna Hessel says think before you buy that Weight Watchers membership for your friend, get an Amazon gift card instead.

35 of the Worst Gifts to Give

Editor’s Note: When Anna Hessel submitted the attached post, I hemmed and hawed a bit, complaining it was “too early” to start thinking of Thanksgiving, much less Christmas. I was reminded however, that in the good ol’ USA, Christmas never ends. As proof of that sentiment, when I went to my local Walmart the other day to pick up a Halloween pumpkin for carving, and a scary doorbell howler to terrorize the Trick or Treaters, I was confronted with reality; not only does Christmas never end in  America, but neither does any other holiday. Wally World had it all; from the giant red heart pillow, left over from Valentine’s Day, to the new pink Barbie Christmas ornaments. There seems to be no apology for the outright commercialization of every holiday in our capitalist society. That is not necessarily a bad thing, just a reflection of America’s unique take on holidays. We like ’em-and the date on the calendar seems to have nothing to do with the enjoyment of the season. Whatever that season may be. So, here is Anna’s suggestions for what NOT to gift this Christmas, or any other day, accompanied by a few of my comments.

 

By Anna Hessel and the Editor

35. The infamous lump of coal. (Editor: I don’t even know where you would find a lump of coal these days. Maybe Joe Manchin could find one for us).

34. A 2023 calendar. (Editor: Totally agree. Who wants to be reminded of the past when the future is racing towards us?)

33. Air freshener, disinfectant, oven or drain cleaner.

32. Weight Watchers gift card. (Editor: Unless of course, it was requested).

31. Deep wrinkle reducing cream with a spackle knife. (Editor: This one could end long established friendships).

30. Au Natural ‘Lumberjack’ cologne just for her.

29. A Limburger cheese scented candle. (Editor:  A cheese connoisseur may feel differently).

28. Deodorant (these really stink as gifts…)

27. A set of encyclopedias. (Editor: This means they were printed before the internet. Just take a minute to digest that…it would be like reading the Archives of Alexandria).

26. Antifungal anything. (Editor: This is definitely too personal).

25. A crochet pot holder crafted at your first crochet class. (Editor: Mine is framed, proudly taking up wall space in my kitchen).

24. A place setting of “china” from the Dollar General.

23. A VHS tape collection  of  embarrassing family moments.

22. An eight track tape of Herschel and the Hillbillies.

21. Socks of any color. (Editor: On this I must protest, I’ve gotten some darn cool socks at Christmas, that I still wear. I’ve got the cute fire fighters pair and the classic cars socks, and of course, the Santa socks, and many more).

20. Purple socks and a crushed velvet Donny Osmond cap. (Editor: I don’t know about this one. I’m kind of into the feel of crushed velvet-and Donny is okay in my book, and I’ve already told you how I feel about socks as gifts-and purple is one of my favorite colors).

19. A GMO foods gift basket.

18. A tie (apologies to my husband because I already bought him one…). (Editor: here again I protest, I’ve already stashed away several awesome ones for my honey).

17. A can of Simoniz. (Editor: I totally agree on this one-unless of course, it’s accompanied with a gift certificate to my favorite auto detailer).

16. A pickleball Ken doll.

15. A pickleball lesson gift certificate. (Editor: Anna, again, I must protest. Pickleball is the “new, great thing” in my little community and I wouldn’t mind learning how to play this outrageously fun looking sport- you can give me one of those gift certificates any day).

14. Artificial flavor favorites cookbook. (Editor: I agree, an abomination).

13. Nose hair trimmer, toenail clipper, ingrown toenail file, pimple popper, earwax remover, or any other gross grooming implement. (Editor: Ohhhh dear, I gave my Dad one of those really lovely grooming kits, in a fancy leather carrying case, just a couple years ago. He said, he liked it).

12. Anything pumpkin spice (don’t be tempted by the fact that the PS stuff is now in the clearance bin…).

11. Membership to the kale of the month club.

10. Dental floss, not even the peppermint flavored variety.

9. Last year’s re-gifted fruit cake. (Editor: I definitely agree you shouldn’t wait so long to re-gift the cake. Now, I’ve heard they have a long shelf life, but I’d recommend if you really want to re-gift the fruit cake you should do it no later than Valentine’s Day).

8. A bathroom wastebasket. (Editor: I agree this is definitely a personal choice item).

7. A toilet cleaning brush with matching plunger. (Editor: Definitely hovering on disgusting).

6. Name a cockroach after your loved one certificate (suitable for framing). (Editor: However, a framed certificate of a new star named after a loved one, might be fun.)

At some point you knew this was going to turn political. Just so you aren’t disappointed, here’s a few jabs at the former guy and his crew.

5. My Pillow. (Editor: I hear Mike Lindell needs the money; that’s a good reason not to buy one).

4. An autographed mug shot of the Donald. (Editor: I cringe at the thought).

3. Trumpy Bear. (Editor: Yes, it is a real thing and I’d stay away from it, far away from it, especially if you’re an attorney).

2. A slightly used red MAGA hat.

1. A Donald Trump head-Chia Pet style-with orange foliage growing out of its several orifices. (Editor: I understand there is  limited number of the heads, due to low interest in that guy).

 

I Wanna Be Barbie, That Girl Has It All

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I Wanna Be Barbie

Barbie hit 60 this year but she looks good and is just hitting her stride. I Wanna Be Barbie, That Girl Has It All…

 

By Anna Hessel

 

“Barbie” Boom

Pink is in and so is Barbie. I just saw the new Barbie movie for the first time, and it’s totally awesome. How can you miss with a cast that includes America Ferrera, Rhea Pearlman, Will Farrell, Ryan Gosling, Margot Robbie, and narration by Helen Mirren? I must commend Mattel for having the courage to make this movie happen. Culturally diverse Barbies and Kens abound in Barbieland, including wheelchair and plus size perfect Barbies – I want both of those dolls. I agree the park bench scene with pink Western attired Barbie and the older lady is a scene worthy of an Oscar. This Christmas my nieces and nephews are getting Mattel toys: Barbies, Hot Wheels or Matchbox cars. Toys for Tots will be blessed with Barbies, too.

Back in the Day…

I happen to pride myself on knowing my Babs history. I know her middle name is Millicent and I have owned many a Millie. I actually gave my dolls choppy haircuts, marker make up, and even tattoos. Weird Barbie, I understand will be the doll to have this holiday season. Eons ago, I came up with the idea of cellulite Barbie, and, of course, have written about it – you heard it here first, folks.

No Boxing

I played enthusiastically with my collection – no doll of mine stayed in a box. Barbie in her black and pink case accompanied me to my first sleepover and my first day of school. She took mud baths in puddles after the rain, and Malibu Barbie and Ken went to the beach with me. I had the Barbie airplane – she was the pilot, Midge the copilot, and Ken was the flight attendant on my airline.

Be All That She Can Be

Ever the feminist, I campaigned for a Shirley Chisholm and “That Girl” dolls. I already had a nurse “Julia” doll. My fashionista Barbie was a lawyer, astronaut, ballerina, and veterinarian, complete with plastic cat and dog. She was a marine biologist, swimming with plastic dolphins. I had equestrian Barbie, who also ran a day care center. Cute baby Barbies came with my baby sitter set. I had the growing up Skipper; crank her arm and she grew boobs. Lucy in the candy factory Barbie. Hair color change Barbie. Ice Capades Barbie. Farm girl Barbie. Teacher Barbie. That’s just to name a few. Ms. Barbara Millicent Roberts was a professor, first female President of the United States, a senator, and judge. Ken was nurse to her doctor. All of my fashion diva dolls held important positions: opera star, actress, independent film maker, news anchor, author, nuclear physicist, private detective, rocket scientist, and, of course, journalist.

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As Summer Winds Down, Beat The Heat

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As Summer Winds Down, Beat The Heat

Anna Hessel offers some great suggestions on beating the summer heat.

Ideas To Beat The Summer Heat

By Anna Hessel

Earlier this month, we talked about how to look good during the dog days of August. Looking good is one thing, but actually beating the heat is another story altogether. It’s easy to overheat, but below are some practical tips to stay cool, comfortable, and safe during this summer heatwave:

  1. Go to a pool, water park, or splash pad. Some can be pricey but some offer resident, student, and/or senior discounts. Others offer special prices on sites like Groupon. Splash pads are often free or nominal fees for adults. Many condo or apartment complexes have pools onsite. If you’re not blessed enough to have a pool of your own, make friends with a neighbor that does. Even indoor pools can cool in the hot temperatures.
  2. If public pools or beaches are not your thing, get in touch with your inner kid and bring out a lawn sprinkler or rig up the garden hose – just don’t drink from it…
  3. Stay hydrated – keep up liquid consumption. Water and clear juices are best – watch out for caffeinated drinks and alcohol, both of which can dry your system out.
  4. Air conditioning and fans are our friends in the summer months but watch your utility bills. Try budget plans that allow you to pay a fixed rate all year long. Keeping drapes or blinds closed can significantly cut the cooling energy load. A paper fan can work in a pinch…
  5. Outside, have it made in the shade – a shady spot can be 10-20 degrees cooler (or even more) than in the sun.
  6. Looser clothing and sunscreen are musts. Breathable fabrics, sandals, shorts, halters, tasteful tube tops, rompers, and halters are cooling attire. If you are visiting a family water park or pool, do not wear a thong bikini, please – show some respect and decorum.
  7. Keeping colognes, toners, sunburn creams, and the like in the fridge can do wonders to cool you down.
  8. A cold shower is not just a curb for your sex drive; try a temp at lukewarm or tepid – colder may overdo it.
  9. Rinse your wrists and cool your neck area – you will notice an immediate difference.
  10. Avoid being outdoors during the hottest times of the day, typically between 11 am and 2 pm, when the sun is strongest.
  11. Enjoy some frozen treats or slushes.
  12. Ice, in drinks or on your forehead, will cool you down quickly.
  13. Use all cotton bedding or linens made with breathable fabrics, and leave off the blankets or comforters.
  14. Salads and cold sandwiches are perfect dinner and lunch options. Eat a cucumber to stay as cool as one, and fresh summer fruits are a great dessert.
  15. Deodorant-antiperspirant: self-explanatory…
  16. Use the power of suggestion: watch a winter movie or TV show – Christmas in August, anyone?
  17. Remember our furry friends need to stay cool, too. If we are hot, imagine how they feel with built-in fur coats. If you see your pet panting, cool them off. Bathing pets, or getting them a kiddie pool can help. Keep a bowl of water with ice cubes nearby for them. Carry a collapsible furbabies bowl if you are taking them outdoors. Do not leave them in hot cars. Keep walks shorter and shave their fur if need be.
  18. Use air conditioning or open car windows while in transit – above 30-35 mph on average, the less drag with closed windows offsets the additional air conditioning add to fuel consumption. Let car air out a bit before sitting on the hot seats. Cars can often feel like you’re entering an oven, or even a steam bath, when parked outside.
  19. Take a cool and comforting bubble bath.
  20. Avoid strenuous exercise like biking, hiking, walking, jogging, or running in hot temperatures. Opt for indoor air-conditioned exercise, instead. Swimming of course is ideal.

Remember in just a few months, when you are dressing in layers, shoveling snow, and snuggling under the covers to get warm, you will long for the Dog Days of summer.

 

Simplify Your Way to Wellness

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Simplify Your Way to Wellness

Reduce stress and improve life

Simplify Your Way to Wellness

Getting rid of things taking up too much space in your home and mind and you will regain calm and improve your health

By D. S. Mitchell

I was flipping through a four-year-old Prevention magazine waiting for my name to be called at the women’s clinic when an article caught my eye. I’m a retired RN and I love finding articles about health and wellness, and tips on how to improve everyday life that I can pass on to my Calamity News readers.

According to this 2019 article by Kate Rockwood, more than half of the country’s population felt “lonely” and “40%” were more anxious than the previous year.  Wow, I thought to myself, this is all pre-COVID-19 information. I can only imagine what the loneliness statistics are today, off the charts, I’m sure.

Ms. Rockwood tells the reader that mental states such as anxiety and loneliness can affect us physically as well. Anxiety and loneliness can increase cortisol levels. Elevated cortisol levels have been linked to an increased risk for heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and obesity.

Outside of seeing a therapist, she suggests the following.

Get Busy.  Smart Phones, Zoom,  PC’s and other technologies are great, but such technologies cannot replace in person interaction. Join a garden club, a book club, or volunteer. Volunteering 2 hours a week results in decreased loneliness and social isolation. Check out volunteermatch.org for local opportunities that fit your interests and skill set. Set a regular lunch date with an old friend. Touch, hug.

Organize Anxiety. To keep “worries” under control start by jotting down specific worries that are stuck on repeat. Then set a specific time to focus on that list of “worries”.  This little trick can help keep those “worries” from hijacking your brain at unwanted times. When the scheduled time to focus on the “worry” list comes around it is possible that the worries are no longer an issue.

Sweat Shop. We all know that physical exercise is important for good physical health, more and more evidence support the notion that physical exercise is good for mental health as well. Thirty minutes of walking can equal the effect of medication or psychotherapy at lifting mild to moderate symptoms of depression.

Clearing the Environment. Environmental disorder can seriously increase our stress level. Studies have linked cluttered environments to decreased self-control and increased anxiety. Pros suggest that you do not try to tackle the whole house at once. Start with one messy area of your home. Snap a before picture. Set the timer for 20-30 minutes. Begin straightening and cleaning. I find it best to start in one corner and just work my way around the room. When the timer dings force yourself to stop for at least 10 minutes, or the whole day if you feel like it. It is imperative to swap open ended cleaning sessions for a specific time window. It is far less overwhelming. Comparing the before photo to the post cleaning picture is solid proof that a little effort can make big dents in seemingly overwhelming projects.

Move Things Around. Want to lose a few pounds, take on a kitchen redo. Hide the cookie jar and bring out a bowl of fruit for your table’s center piece. In your panty move healthy staples like nuts, quinoa, to the front of eye level shelves and put unhealthier snacks and sweets on the top shelf where they are harder to see or reach.

Return to a Former Passion. Re-engaging with an activity you once loved-a sport, an instrument, a hobby-can bring you fun and and new people into your life.

Change it Up. Consider pursuing that sport or hobby in a more social way. An example could be, you as a life long gardener, take a neighbor under your wing and teach her the joys of working in the garden.

Reconnect.  Do you find yourself reminiscing about old friends? If you do, it  may be time to reach out to them (social media is a great resource) and attempt to reconnect. Sometimes it will be like you never had a disconnect, in other instances there will be no re-blossoming of the relationship, but you made the effort and that’s the important part.

I hope you found a couple of tips to help undo the side effects of stress in your life.

8 Reasons To Keep Working After Retirement

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Working After Retirement

Research shows that working after retirement is good for the mind, the body, and the pocketbook.

Research shows that working during retirement is good for the mind, the body, and the pocketbook

Keep Working After Retirement

Here are 8 Reasons to get a job after retiring

D. S. Mitchell

Measurable Benefits

Working after retirement, seems like an oxymoron, but that isn’t necessarily true. Just because you are no longer practicing your primary career doesn’t mean you should walk away from all money making endeavors. Part-time, free lance or consulting work, volunteering- doing that something you always wanted to do. A friend of mine, who worked for UPS for years, does wedding and anniversary photos as his new side hustle. Another friend works for a home health care company and does light housekeeping chores for several elder clients. I write freelance articles. I always wanted to be a writer; well now I am. Working can add to your retirement satisfaction and give your  life structure. And there are of course, the financial benefits of a paycheck. After a bit of thought and research I’ve come up with eight specific reasons a retired person may want to consider re-entering the job market.

  1. Researchers have concluded that working helps maintain good mental health.  Do not presume this is just because those with better cognitive health are better able to work. There is a particular benefit noted by researchers when the retiree switches to a different type of job than the one held prior to retirement. That benefit comes from learning new things-known as “novelty processing.” Novelty processing appears to slow cognitive decline. Who doesn’t want to stay sharp?
  2. Having a regular paycheck is a powerful means to increase the money available in retirement, without drawing down your savings, and it gives you an extended opportunity to save. Remember, you are not out searching for some high power position, with a six figure salary and every benefit ever imagined. Earning just a small portion of your previous salary will make a significant difference and substantially improve retirement security.
  3. Transitioning to part-time or even volunteer work, doing work unrelated to your prior career appears to be associated with fewer physical disabilities and declines and overall better cognitive health. University of Maryland researchers linked a post career job with fewer major diseases and functional limitations.
  4. A recent Harvard study found that retirement well-being depends on having good quality relationships. Folks who seem to enjoy retirement the most are those who replaced old work relationships with new ones. Working, whether full-time, part-time, or as a volunteer creates an environment for new interactions that can potentially develop into those new quality relationships.
  5. Finding a sense of purpose for living after retirement is critically important. A ‘little job’ can be a motivator to get you out of bed everyday. A common theme researchers hear is the need to find meaning and purpose-continuing to work in some capacity is a great way to achieve that sense of purpose, which in turn makes the retiree feel younger and more connected.
  6. Retirement allows the retiree the time and opportunity to help others. Volunteerism is one great way to ward off depression and provide inner satisfaction. That sense of well-being disappears quickly once volunteering stopped, according to recent studies from the UK.
  7. Work at what you like. Often our careers don’t match our passions. So as you think about re-entering the labor force, focus on fun and challenge. If you love to garden, how about a part-time position at the local nursery? Make sure you are spending time with people you like; in an environment that matches your hobbies or interests. Getting involved in activities you enjoy and care about can bring you in contact with new people you have things in common with.
  8. Every store in my little town has a “HIRING” sign in the front window. According to the Labor Department, there are 9.6 million job openings today in the United States. With such a severe worker shortage finding a job to better your life should be relatively easy, plus you would be helping a local business (and thus your community) that is struggling with staffing issues.

Making Cannabis Edibles

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Making Cannabis Edibles

Making Cannabis Edibles

Dave and Bill are here at the Calamity Politics studios and they are talking today about making cannabis edibles. I’m a big fan of cannabis edibles and I use RSO (Rick Simpson Oil) to make all my delicious edibles. Bill is the weed man and knows his shit. The great thing about RSO is that there is none of that weird weedy aftertaste, plus you don’t need to make any special changes to your standard recipe. So sit down and take a couple minutes to learn about making cookies, brownies, and gummies.

Pickleball Takeover: One Paddle At A Time

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Pickleball Popularity Surges

Pickleball Takeover: One Paddle At A Time

The game of Pickleball is sweeping the U.S.A. and Canada

D. S. Mitchell

Just A Little Help

It was 2017 when I decided to start the www.calamitypolitics.com website. I asked “Computer Jane,” my techie friend for some help.  Actually, a whole lot of help. She of course was cool, except she refused to give up her “pickleball time.”

Pickleball?

Pickleball? What’s that? I asked. Her response, “it’s sort of like a mix of ping pong, badminton, and tennis; but played different. It’s a whole lot of fun.”

Tell Me More

Pickleball is played on a court 1/4 the size of a tennis court. Like in tennis, players serve, volley and hit ground strokes but pickleballers use a solid surface paddle and a perforated plastic ball. All serves must be underhanded. Games are played to 11 points. To win, however, there must be a two point spread. Points can only been won if you are serving.

Die Hard Fans

This fun, fast paced, low impact and easy to play game has made 5.8 million Americans and Canadians die hard fans. The pandemic did nothing but accelerate the game’s popularity. Jane tells me she thinks the small court  increases socialization and ups the action which she swears helps her stay in shape.

The Funny Name

I looked this up. Co-inventor, Joel Pritchard claims the name came from the term “pickleboat” in collegiate crewing. A “pickleboat” is defined as a boat filled by random rowers that were not selected for competitive races. Fitting since pickleball  is a game combining bits and pieces of other games.

Terminology

Dillball: Incoming ball that has bounced once.

Dink: A soft arching shot hit on a bounce inside the kitchen.

Falafel: A shot hit without any force.

Flapjack: A shot that must bounce before being hit.

Kitchen: The 7 foot no-volley zone near the net.

Pickled: Scoring zero points in a game.

Where To Play?

To find a Pickleball court near you check out Places2play.org.

Single Doesn’t Spell Unhappy

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Single Doesn’t Spell Unhappy

 

Experts now believe being single isn't such a bad thing, and may in fact lead to great happiness and fulfillment.

Single Doesn’t Spell Unhappy

I read somewhere recently, single doesn’t necessarily mean ready to mingle. Scientists are confirming that sentiment; not all singles are looking to partner up. In 2023 at least 40% of all U.S. adults are living solo. At least half of that 40% state no interest in dating, or developing a relationship. 

By D. S. Mitchell

March Time

I’m at the doctor’s office and for the first time since the pandemic I see magazines filling the wall racks and the table tops. Yahoo! magazines are back. As I waited to be called, I flipped through the pages of Time (March 14/ March 20).  I quickly landed on Angela Haupt’s article, “5 Ways To Find Happiness On Your Own” and thought I’d pass on to my readers what Ms. Haupt had to say about those “5 Ways” to find happiness if you are living a single lifestyle.

Not So True Anymore

For at least the last fifty years researchers and psychologists have told the public that married and partnered folks tended to live longer, be happier, and experience more satisfied lives than their single counterparts. According to new studies that old truism may no longer be true. With marriages down and divorces up it says that a lot of people in this country like it better alone than in a miserable relationship. The quality of the relationship is what counts. If it’s a bad one, the stress and abuse shortens lives and stunts personal growth and happiness.

Five Ways To Be Happy:

  1. Identify the Positives: It seems that long term singles cherish “freedom, independence, creativity and nonconformity,” states Haupt. In one study, singles touted solo benefits such as, having more time for themselves, being able to focus on their goals, hobbies, self care activities, not having to answer to someone else for their actions or how they spend their money.
  2. No Hurry to Couple: If you are recently out of a relationship, slow down, take some time before you hook up again; take stock of the benefits of single life. Enjoy yourself, stop wishing for what you don’t have. Don’t fret that there isn’t someone on your arm, because that panic over being single can lead you to make stupid choices and end up miserable, again. Volunteer, be of service to your community, take your mind off finding a partner, for a while at least.
  3. Friends Need Tending: We’ve all experienced the withdrawal from friends and family that occurs when we become involved in a relationship. Men particularly, according to Haupt, do not tend friendships and lose those friendships over time and find themselves lonely in later life. Studies indicate that single people have more friends than partnered folks.  Furthermore singles tend to visit and interact with friends and family more that partnered folks.
  4. Sex Life: As imagined, people in relationships have more sex than their single counterparts, the availability factor makes this a statistical slam dunk. Geoff MacDonald, University of Toronto psychology professor, states, “to the extent to which single people are happy with their sex lives predicts their satisfaction with their single life. Those with higher sexual satisfaction tend to report less desire to marry.”
  5. Stigma Is Old School: If you’re single you may feel that others imagine there must be something wrong with you if you aren’t partnered up. Is there really such a thing as societal expectations in the year 2023? Forget what you imagine others are thinking and “live your single life fully, joyfully, and unapologetically,” says social psychologist Bella DePaulo.